Choosing people who choose you

Choosing people who choose you

What a season I have been in! Over the years I met people and I tend to be the one who overcompensates, it is I who will be texting first and checking up on etc. But this season, I decided “wait a minute Zen, take a step back and see if they will come towards you”,...
Protecting my peace

Protecting my peace

Lately I have been on this journey of just protecting my peace. I won’t even react to things that used to mess me up. It’s quite hard work to switch off from default settings. On a daily basis I used to say what I wanted to say to prove a point, but these days I...
Misplacing

Misplacing

The dictionary meaning of this word is “positioning incorrectly”. Have you ever been put in a place wrongly, like you have been made out to be someone or portray something that you thought was different but you were only put there for the benefit of someone else; not...
Closing Doors

Closing Doors

Closing doors ain’t easy but often it is a necessity, we allow people in our lives and we also have a responsibility to ourselves to maintain healthy boundaries and relationships. When you are used to being abused or you are used to selling yourself short...
Misplacing

Misplacing

The dictionary meaning of this word is “positioning incorrectly”. Have you ever been put in a place wrongly, like you have been made out to be someone or portray something that you thought was different but you were only put there for the benefit of someone else; not...
Self Sabotage

Self Sabotage

Ever been in a space where you have been so used to a certain kind of thing and never really experienced anything else. For example,  you have been so used to dysfunction that, that is all you know and then you end up seeking dysfunction because that’s all you...