I have not written in a while. I wrote many posts in my head and I did life with the constant longing to sit down and write, but I did not.
You see, writing these blog posts is a sacred activity to me. It is an intimate conversation with a loved one. I open my laptop and I see you sitting in front of me, I look at you, your head is slightly tilted and there is anticipation in your eyes and a little smile in the corners of your mouth. I steady myself and clear my throat and I give you some rushed speech of how I will try to not speak long, but that it is a challenge for me. You chuckle and say that I must take my time and be me. Those words settle me and then I take a deep breath and I start telling you what has been on my mind, but instead of my mouth moving it is my fingers dancing on the keyboard. It is a sacred and intimate conversation with a loved one.
I hope you have something in your life that is sacred and intimate and brings you joy.
In this last post for the year I wanted to pack in a lot of things. I had to do a lot of sifting because I learned so much about people and workplaces and wellness and I really want to share it all.
I decided against the flood of information because I know you are most probably tired. I certainly am. This was an incredibly difficult year for many people and for many the end of the difficulties is not in sight, although the year has come to an end.
I thought what the one thing would be I would love to share with you as my goodbye for the year. And I chose this: Hold space for you.
Heather Plett wrote, “What does it mean to hold space for someone else? It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control.”
In your various roles as wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, and colleague you most probably are already practicing holding space for others. It is very rare that I find people, especially women, holding space for themselves.
This festive season, your gift to yourself might be to hold space for you. No judgement, no control. No negative self-talk, no unrealistic expectations, no pleasing people. Celebrating you and accepting you. You are worthy.
I believe that when you learn to hold space for you, holding space for others becomes easier and free from resentment.
I wish you and your loved ones a blessed period of rest and love.
Till the next post.
Stay committed to your growth.