When I look at my 2 boys, I can immediately see they are not alike. Despite the fact that they look different, they laugh, love and play differently. The way they dress is also different and I am learning everyday that I should treat them differently as their personalities are not the same.
My oldest son is almost a teenager, the age difference between my boys is 7 years. We raised him very strictly. He is a very emotional child, he is sensitive but also understanding. If we reprimand him he always listens and reacts immediately. He also says sorry very quickly if he has an outburst or when he realizes he was wrong or made a mistake. When I look at him at times I often feel that we are too hard on him but I trust it’s for the greater good. I can pick up that he now corrects his little brother at times when he sees him doing something wrong.
When my youngest came along we decided to be less strict on him. He struggles at times with obedience, I can’t talk too loud or even discipline him in certain ways then the tears start rolling down his cheeks and then my heart wants to break.
I feel sorry for him and give in (which is wrong)! I don’t know if it was the best decision to not discipline him like we did with the eldest but you learn everyday as a parent besides kids will always push their boundaries. I always say he is still my baby but realize he is growing up too and needs to be treated and encouraged as an independent individual who needs to know he can do certain things on his own.
At the end of the day all we can do is our best to raise respectful children, pray and believe they will turn out well.
Till next time