These last couple of months have been filled with loads of lessons and copious amounts of tears… They say tears are healing waters and it is most certainly so. If I can encourage you, dear reader, from the onset: don’t ever hold back, feel your feelings and move forward, do not suppress, let it flow and then let it go.

One of the greatest lessons I have learned in this time has been to not take things personally. There are these four agreements from Don Miguil Ruiz and for the longest time I have tried to live my life to those agreements. Let me tell you it has saved me so much trouble and I have kept my peace.

One of the agreements says don’t take things personally, because what others do and say has nothing to do with you but everything to do with them.

I remember a few months ago I would get upset about WhatsApp messages not being read and me being blue ticked without acknowledgement and this tripped me up. So I decided you know what, that’s not on me that is on the person on the receiving end, they are showing me who they are and that’s okay. It wasn’t easy to get to this place, however, I chose to do what is best for me and my peace.

I do want to encourage you, the next time something happens that doesn’t sit well with you, ask yourself the question: Is this really worth getting upset about, or can I just let it go and preserve the relationship / friendship? That in itself is Grace in Action.

Don’t take things personally, it will save you a lot of trouble… 

All my love

Zen