Choosing people who choose you
What a season I have been in! Over the years I met people and I tend to be the one who overcompensates, it is I who will be texting first and checking up on etc. But this season, I decided “wait a...
Protecting my peace
Lately I have been on this journey of just protecting my peace. I won't even react to things that used to mess me up. It’s quite hard work to switch off from default settings. On a daily basis I...
Misplacing
The dictionary meaning of this word is “positioning incorrectly”. Have you ever been put in a place wrongly, like you have been made out to be someone or portray something that you thought was...
Closing Doors
Closing doors ain't easy but often it is a necessity, we allow people in our lives and we also have a responsibility to ourselves to maintain healthy boundaries and relationships. When you are used...
Misplacing
The dictionary meaning of this word is “positioning incorrectly”. Have you ever been put in a place wrongly, like you have been made out to be someone or portray something that you thought was...
Self Sabotage
Ever been in a space where you have been so used to a certain kind of thing and never really experienced anything else. For example, you have been so used to dysfunction that, that is all you know...
Letting go
I have been on this journey of letting go for the past couple of months and if I think about it, it could have been sooner that I shut a certain door. But it was important for me to get to a place...
My Journey to wholeness
For years I felt responsible for others behaviors, or felt a certain kind of way when they behave a certain way towards me and I most often than not adjusted, but this behavior of mine was fueled by...
Acceptence
We often want people to accept us as we are but when it comes to accepting others as they are, we tend to be somewhat critical. A few weeks ago while having a conversation with God, God instructed...
Shift your focus
What you focus on you magnify. The question is, what have you been focusing on these last couple of days, weeks, months? I realized that I have been so focused on things that were not working for...
Love
Don't say 'I love you' with the wrong intentions... The word love gets thrown around like it's a means to an end...Many forget that Love is an action word, when you tell someone you love them, it...
Being Vulnerable
Every time I allowed a man into my vulnerable space, I got hurt. Over the years, this made me not trust any man. In my eyes, they were just after what they could get from me. Every time I allowed...
Rejection
Rejection... “the action of spurning a person's affections”. Also, “dismissing an idea or person”. For years I have been walking around with this wound of rejection that has gotten me into sticky...
(I AM) Toxic
One of the hardest lessons is to admit and acknowledge that you (I am) toxic. Remnants of my past still lurk within me and projecting past behaviours based on triggers affect new found...
Consistency
This word has been in my face for a while and I had recently become acquainted with someone. One of the things about them that really grabbed me was inconsistent effort. Consistent behaviour I saw...
Despite what I know
I recently found out delicate information that would and could change the dynamics of a relationship dear to my heart; however, God has called me to a higher degree of understanding... You have...
Lesson Learnt by Zen
These last couple of months have been filled with loads of lessons and copious amounts of tears... They say tears are healing waters and it is most certainly so. If I can encourage you, dear reader,...
Disappointment by Zen
I have been carrying this word the whole week, by carrying I mean it has been popping up in my mind the whole week. So I believe I need to release it... For the longest time I have experienced...
Forgiveness by Zen
Many times we hold onto not forgiving. We think that this will make it easier to process what has been done to us. Thing is, have we ever truly considered that forgiveness is about you/us? The other...
Forgiveness by Zen
Many times we hold onto not forgiving. We think that this will make it easier to process what has been done to us. Thing is, have we ever truly considered that forgiveness is about you/us? The other...