Many people spend most of their waking hours at work. Unfortunately, many people spend these hours hoping for the day to be over, in some cases literally watching the clock. This experience of counting time whilst at work with dread and at times despair is quite familiar to me. I most certainly have experienced it myself. I am also honoured to hear the experiences of others. Over the years I have had countless talks in my office, my living room, coffee shops as well as over the phone and through email. Many women are not living their best lives at work. In fact, for some, work has become living nightmares. In my experience misery at work is quite common.
We fall for the fallacy of common versus normal so many times. Where we believe that because it happens to so many people it is normal and therefore, we should accept our experience as the only reality. This false belief results in many women living their worst lives at work; just trying their best to continue providing for their loved ones. What we many times do not realise is that our acceptance comes at a high cost to ourselves, our families, and our communities.
Take time and look around your community and you will see the employee we described above, battling and most times failing to be a present parent, a present spouse/partner, a present sibling, a present adult child, or a present friend. Being present referred to above speaks of giving your best in that moment whatever that moment may require.
The different parts of our lives take from us and give to us in different ways. Some of these ways are restorative, healing and enabling growth, whilst others are toxic, destructive and leads to stagnation. Our work life is no different, it takes and gives in both ways. The experiences described in the beginning of this post come primarily from toxic and destructive exchanges.
If this resonates with you and it speaks to parts of your work story, then we hope you will join the mission as we re-define the workspace as a space of growth and presence.
Through intentional actions at individual level, we can change some of these exchanges and create a work experience that enables growth in you as a primary outcome and growth in others as a wonderful by-product. We invite you to actively engage with our post and to try out the actions we propose as part of a movement of women committed to changing their work experiences from counting the time to making the time count.
Stay committed to your growth.
Till the next post …