“That’s not what I meant.”
How many times do we say something and regret it instantly?
Somehow when it comes out it doesn’t sound like what you intended it to.
People interpret things differently and what is said can be received based on the receivers’ lived experiences and filters.
The thing about words is once they are out there you can’t take them back.
Once you have made an utterance about something no matter how you try to explain and redeem yourself.
It has been said.
It has been received.
And an idea about you has been formed.
We all know the saying-
“Rome was not built in a day.”
But did you know that it took less time to destroy it than it took to build?
Some say one day, some say 3 but what we know for sure is that it was destroyed.
Such are relationships-
So what do you do when you have said something that you didn’t mean to mean and now you stand at the brink of a relationship falling apart?
You own it
Let the person know you made a mistake.
Don’t try and justify what you did.
Create opportunities to create a new experience with the person.
And most importantly give the person time.
Time heals all things when the truth of who you are is repeated enough they will begin to see it too.