For days now this word VALUE has been lingering in my mind and I have been thinking about the VALUE we place on ourselves as individuals.

Toxicity allowed me to devalue myself and tolerate certain behaviors for the sake of friendships and not being alone. Being alone was something I fear the most and this fear caused me to have friendships and relationships that were very one sided. All the effort came from me, one day I decided, you know what, I am going to stop overcompensating. I stopped being the first one to text or call and make an effort.

I started to value my time and how I spend it. I started to be the friend I wanted others to be to me and that meant that there was reciprocation, friendships are a two way street, and it takes two individuals to actually make it work.

I learned that if I value you, I will make time for you, I will check on you, if you need me I will be there for you, if you are sick I will make sure you know I am thinking of you and praying for you, most importantly I will support and invest in you. I suffered in the past because I didn’t value myself and I tolerated breadcrumbs and that was my worst mistake. One of my mottos I live by: No regrets, only lessons.

So here is the thing, what’s your price tag? 

Perhaps you are like me and you have finally gotten to a place where you actually really know your worth and you refuse to compromise on it. People value who and what they want and it breaks your heart when you realize what you were prepared to do for them, they would not do for you and when you get there, make some changes that will work hand in hand with your healing.

You are valuable, believe it! 

All my love,

Zen